DIARY OF A NIGERIAN GIRL _Mo' - Episode 3

Happy "Twos day" readers...
Past few days been so busy, barely had time for me....
I'm grateful for these few minutes I have in bed to write before I'm up and about for the day again...

Flash back to me growing up, I've always been a big fan of birthdays, like I'm always totally psyched about them ..
Thank God for my beautiful mom who makes sure we "mark" each birthday..
I didn't say celebrate, I said "mark". My mom has this chain and I don't know if it's only peculiar to my family .. The chain goes like this → you only celebrate your 1st, 5th, 10th, 15th ... Complete d sequence... And so on birthdays..
But birthdays like 6th, 7th, 11th and d rest, she doesn't elaborately celebrate, she "marks".
"Marks" means buying biscuits, cookies, chocolates and drinks but no cake and taking them to school to share with your teachers, friends and classmates.
This has been the family tradition but my sister and I when we were little, promised to celebrate our birthdays EVERY YEAR when we are big and have "OUR OWN MONEY" Lol? I know right.

My dad on the other hand doesn't remember any body's birthday in the family.
One time on my birthday, everyone woke up early to wish me a happy birthday but he wasn't around, he had gone for his early morning jog when he got back, he didn't as much as look twice at me after he answered my greetings.
Until my mom said "Today is Dupe's birthday" then he said "which Dupe" and we all looked at him.
Then he finally remembered and said "Oh! Happy birthday my star" blah blah blah
I was sad, devastated and totally unhappy until my mom explained to me that he's not good with dates, it's not like doesn't care or is indifferent, he's just not a "birthday person"
She said he hardly remembered hers even when they were courting
He doesn't even remember his until you remind him, we'll be like "Happy birthday daddy" and he'll go "Oh Today's my birthday wow, thank you very much"
(Organizing a surprise birthday party for him will be very easy)
The only reason he remembers sometimes (and that's once in like 5 years) is because its the same date with his wedding anniversary so its too significant not to be remembered once in a while.

Then I understood
Its not like he doesn't care or doesn't have a good memory, he's just not a "birthday guy"

Fast forward to today, I'm supposed to be super excited, I mean particularly because my birthday is in 5 days time but I'm not.. Weird
I'm just here, not psyched like I used to be in the past
I'm grateful for life and the many things I've achieved this past year, but I'm just not excited about this year's birthday .. If I were to have a cake, I doubt if I would even have the enthusiasm and strength to blow out the candles. Yes, it's that bad.
I now understand my daddy's plight.
Well, I concluded yesterday that I would be a great mom, my kids will have awesome birthdays while they're still excited about birthdays before they get to this weird "maturity" that kills every excitement you had as a child. 

To everyone that is still psyched about birthdays, I envy y'all, enjoy it and I pray it lasts

Also to everyone December born, we're awesome! Yes we're amazing! Particularly Sagittarius ♐

Specially to everyone that shares my birthday, December 11th we're amazing, I mean literally, we're the coolest...

Happy birthday to every December born in advance, in arrears and whatever
Ok bye, I need to go and take my bath and get prepared for school ⌚.
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P.S: Don't mind my random pictures
Made a new hair , I'll share in my next post, see you next Tuesday or on Sunday (My birthday)

Dear future son

Long before you came, I prepared for you.

Countless nights I stayed up praying for you, before I met you or even your father. 💑💏👪

Made a promise to give you the best dad in the world, the best role model you can have.👬

Made a promise to give you a great life, and at least one sibling.👫

Made a promise to let you follow your dreams and not coerce you into living mine.

Made a promise to introduce you to God even from the womb.

Made a promise to impart the knowledge of God into you.

All these, I have done and more.
Now dear child, these few things I ask of you....

Love God and acknowledge him.

Respect your sister(s), only then will you respect ladies outside.

Never take a woman for granted, think of the pains of your mother at childbirth.

You have a good heart, I can feel it but evil communication corrupts good manner, keep a small circle.
Not everyone is a friend.

Your destiny is in your hands, your decisions today, will form your tomorrow. Be wise.

You are a prince, always remember that. And one day, my child, you'll be  a king. How you'll rule your kingdom is determined by your behavior now.

When you're down and can't speak to anyone, even I, go to God, he's ever there. He's watching over you, and always ready to listen to you. Take your problems to him.
You'll be surprised at the peace that comes during and after prayers.

I pray that God guides and strengthens you.
I pray for wisdom beyond your peers and at the right time, I pray that God directs you to Her.  Your help meet, your woman, your friend, your partner that'll continue from wherever I stop.
God bless you my child. 🙏
     

                       -Your Mom and Friend👫